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4月29日 innocenceChildren are such a fragile and precious gift. They are so easily wounded. Unkind words and unkind acts can leave scars that last a lifetime. If we treat them the way we wish to be treated, they can grow into people one is proud to know. They learn to be considerate by us being considerate to them, and by explaining why we should be respectful of others. They need to learn that their words can wound others deeply and have lasting consequences. For every act or deed there are consequences. Sometimes the consequences can be a pleasant surprise, and other times, they can be downright painful. And why would one wish to inflict pain on themselves? It can happen when one lashes out in anger, and when they presume to know what another's motives are when they are hurt. It seems that the "me" generation has forgotten to look around at the people they come into contact with. They are to be pitied. They do not understand that the ripples they send out today will bounce back on them sometime in the future. Our youngones need desperatley to learn some of these lessons. Hopefully, they will not have to learn it by being injured, either physically or emotionally. Often, wounded children curl up inside and never reach their full potential. This is truly a shame. 4月28日 politicsThis is from an email that has been circulating for a while now, but the moral is timeless!
The ant and the grasshopper.......new version
OLD VERSION: The ant works hard in the withering heat all summer long, building his house and laying up supplies for the winter. The grasshopper thinks the ant is a fool and laughs and dances and plays the summer away. Come winter, the ant is warm and well fed. The grasshopper has no food or shelter, so he dies out in the cold. MORAL OF THE STORY: Be responsible for yourself! ************************************************************ MODERN VERSION: The ant works hard in the withering heat all summer long, building his house and laying up supplies for the winter. The grasshopper thinks the ant is a fool and laughs and dances and plays the summer away. Come winter, the shivering grasshopper calls a press conference and demands to know why the ant should be allowed to be warm and well fed while others are cold and starving. CBS, NBC, PBS, CNN, and ABC show up to provide pictures of the shivering grasshopper next to a video of the ant in his comfortable home with a table filled with food. America is stunned by the sharp contrast. How can this be, that in a country of such wealth, this poor grasshopper is allowed to suffer so? Kermit the Frog appears on Oprah with the grasshopper, and everybody cries when they sing, "It's Not Easy Being Green." Jesse Jackson stages a demonstration in front of the ant's house where the news stations film the group singing, "We shall overcome." Jesse then has the group kneel down to pray to God for the grasshopper's sake. Nancy Pelosi & John Kerry exclaim in an interview with Larry King that the ant has gotten rich off the back of the grasshopper, and both call for an immediate tax hike on the ant to make him pay his fair share. Finally, the EEOC drafts the Economic Equity and Anti-Grasshopper Act retroactive to the beginning of the summer. The ant is fin ed for failing to hire a proportionate number of green bugs and, having nothing left to pay his retroactive taxes, his home is confiscated by the government. Hillary gets her old law firm to represent the grasshopper in a defamation suit against the ant, and the case is tried before a panel of federal judges that Bill Clinton appointed from a list of single-parent welfare recipients. The ant loses the case. The story ends as we see the grasshopper finishing up the last bits of the ant's food while the government house he is in, which just happens to be the ant's old house, crumbles around him because he doesn't maintain it. The ant has disappeared in the snow. The grasshopper is found dead in a drug related incident and the house, now abandoned, is taken over by a gang of spiders who terrorize the once peaceful neighborhood. MORAL OF THE STORY: Be careful how you vote. !!! (But be sure to vote) 4月26日 OIL PRICES !!The price of gas in this country is appalling!! In Washington it is over $3.00 a gallon, and is steadily climbing. The same thing went on last year, and people all over the place were screaming. They say it is linked to oil prices, and a lack of refineries. I say bah!! The oil companies boasted record profits last year, and guess what? They plan to break all the records this year. They made those profits by charging way more than they needed to for gas.
As long as people consume gas at these prices, the oil companies will continue to raise the price. These awful prices for a necessary commodity will continue to rise until the consumer says 'ENOUGH !! I WILL CUT BACK OR CEASE TO USE IT!!"
More people are turning to bicycles and mass transit. But it is not enough. If everyone in the country stayed home over the weekends for one month, the price would drop. In fact, I would venture to bet that staying home for just one weekend would make an impact!
Wake up , America!! It's the law of supply and demand. As long as we use their supply, they will demand higher prices. 4月23日 Life is what you make it!In a time when parents are saying things like, "don't fail my child, they don't deserve to be embarrassed", maybe they should be urging the child to do better by practicing, or finding something else to pley or do. I have heard that if a child's ball team is not playing well, they should simply pull the team. Why not allow them to play and learn to lose with grace? There is no shame in playing badly, only in not trying to do their best. This applies to anything in life. Try to excell and keep on trying, or find something you are good at, and perfect it. We all have special talents and gifts; it is just a matter of finding what it is that makes us special. It is also necessary to remember that not everyone can be a star, but every star has had a lot of help along the way. It is when we stoop to uplift another person that we ourselves are up lifted. To be able to give unconditionally and expect nothing in return is when we receive the most gratification and benefit. I always feel good when I know I have done something to help another. It need not be financial. Maybe just a kind word at a time when they need it. More children need to understand that all actions have consequences, and that the parent will not "bail them out". They also need to be taught respect and courtesy for others. Manners are often a neglected subject. It is truly sad to see so many rude children running around. But it is a joy when one encounters a youth who is kind and considerate. And it costs them nothing. 4月22日 Virginia Tech VictimsThe media will glorify the shooter for a long time to come , but who will honor the dead? These are the victims, and these are the people who should be remembered... Professor Liviu Librescu, a holocaust survivor, is a true hero for trying to save his students from the shooter by standing in the doorway. It cost him his life. These are the names we should be remembering, the ones who should be in the media spotlight, not the shooter! RomanceRomance can be found in quite a few places
To find it you need to look in their faces
The tilt of their head
Is easily read
The look in their eyes
Seldom tells lies
When you sense their desire
Your smile banks the fire
If it is just lust
You'll be lost in the dust
So beware the illusion
That you're in seclusion
Others may know from previous tries
That this person just carries on through with lies
They're out for the conquest
And they'll do their best
To win over your heart
Then they'll tear it apart
They'll leave you in tears
You'll remember for years
But in the long run
Let's hope you had fun
Save the lesson you learned
For when the tables are turned
And enjoy every tryst
to add to your list
So when the RIGHT one arrives
It will enrich your lives
4月19日 Healing abuseTo my way of thinking, adults must distance themselves from their abusers in order to begin the healing process. They should also avoid jumping into additonal relationships at this time, as they may be jumping from the pan to the fire and are probably quite vulnerable. It takes time to recover one's sense of self and gain back whatever self confidence they may have lost. In my own case, it took a long time; and thankfully, I had friends to help lead me through the process. Friends who nurtured and encouraged me to keep on taking the steps needed for healing. Part of that healing came through talking to others who had been where I had been. It was also necessary for me to understand where I had come from, what had put me in that position, and what part I had played in the situation.
For the childhood abuses, I had to learn to forgive. Not to condone, but to understand how sick other people sometimes were. And through it all, to realize that my soul was still my own, and that no one could take that part of me unless I gave it to them. There is also the need to educate our children so they can defend themselves against an abuser, and so they can feel safe coming to us when they need to.
In retrospect, it was also necessary for me to realize that I too had been abusive in one form or another. Usually verbally. But the verbal bruises can last far longer that the physical ones. As an adult, I learned to use verbal assault as a defense against physical threats. Hopefully, that is no longer what I resort to. Instead, I try to understand where the other person is coming from, and use intellect to deflect what ever psychological harm soemone may wish to inflict on my person. I have also learned that sometimes it is necessary to fight the physical assault in kind, and that it is okay to do that in order to defend oneself. 4月16日 freedomMy my my
How time does fly
When chores are done
and we're having fun
Past memories fade
as through our dreams we wade
nightmares wake us
eroticism will shake us
at night it seems
our dark nature in dreams
comes out all at once
and on waking it haunts
grieving the past
you must let go at last
to forgive may be divine
perhaps for others that's fine
but hatred runs deep
in the secrets you keep
you fight with a will
the urges to kill
for our sins we will pay
or so they all say
but who knows for sure
if our motives were pure
so we play with our toys
like good girls and boys
until we're called home
to drown in the foam
our foam can be pain
from other's disdain
or it can bring pleasure
like a vast treasure
bringing us release from our past
and giving us freedom so vast
freedom to live
and freedom to give
4月9日 EasterWell, we had our Easter dinner of Pizza last night. It was a lazy day--kick back, relax, enjoy some sunshine.
Why do they say you cannot choose your family but you can choose your friends? Most often, I have cousins who are closer than siblings, and some family I would never claim. And then again, there are people I have chosen to be friends with who wind up being family! To illustrate: Saturday I attended a family reunion at the invitation of a friend. She told me I was family. What a wonderful feeling. I did know many who were there, so I did not feel like an outsider. As a result, I have been invited to a tribal naming ceremony by an elder who is receiving her Indian name. I did of course hand out some flyers for my book, and think I may be able to claim my gas as a business expense. I'm keeping track of my mileage at any rate.
I plan to attend a networking meeting on the 20th that is for the Womens Spirit Coalition in Olympia, and I am looking forward to it. New faces, new experiences. I hope this trend continues. Socializartion has been lacking in my life this past year and a half, and it is sorely missed. 4月6日 Busy, busy, busy!!!Now the real work begins, I guess--contacting media, checking on business cards, ordering bookmarks, and I need to set up some book signings. I think I shall start in Shelton, where there are several small bookstores that cater to that sort of thing, and it will give me some experience before I branch out. Barnes and Noble stores are supposed to be very author friendly, too, so they will be next.
I am trying to keep track of expenses and activities. Even bought an organizer--day planner to help me keep track. Good grief, ME? Organized? What a hoot!
So far, response has been wonderful, I just hope it continues. The book is a little over the top. Explicit scenes, you understand. |
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