It is very good to be aware of where our children are and what they are doing; but what about adult women staying safe as well?  As adults, we are the only ones who can tell ourselves what we can do to stay safe.  Here are a couple of pointers:

          Don’t park in an area that will be dark and shielded from view, especially if you know it  will be after nightfall when you go to retrieve your car.  Use valet parking when it is available.

            Always be aware of your surroundings, and think ahead.  If you are working late in an office building, is there anyone there who can accompany you to your vehicle, or at least watch to make sure you arrive at your car safely?  Some buildings have security guards, and they can either walk you out or at least watch for you and your safe entry to your transportation. 

             Don’t set your self up to be a victim.  A woman walking alone and timidly, purse clutched to her chest, looking around and over her shoulder is asking to meet a purse snatcher, or someone even worse.  She is already frightened, and it shows, making her the perfect victim.    

             If it is necessary for you to walk outside at night, do so with purpose and confidence.  Anyone looking for a victim to prey upon is not looking for a fighter.  They want to attack the weak and frightened, knowing they will not put up much of a fight.  Walk tall and proud, with confidence, even if you must pretend.

            If there is a self defense class near you, by all means take advantage of it.  You have absolutely nothing to lose by doing so, and you can gain extra self confidence from it.  Self confidence is a good defense, and shows in the way you walk and carry yourself.

            Should you lock yourself away at night?  Absolutely not!  Enjoy your life socially whenever you like.  But be aware and avert danger when you can.  That way you can be safe and still enjoy life.

(c) 2008 Zada Connaway